Breastfeeding: A Journey of Love, Struggles, and Triumphs
As a mom to one big, healthy boy, I can confidently say that breastfeeding has been one of the most rewarding yet challenging experiences of my life. While my son and I have settled into a great rhythm now, my journey was far from easy in the beginning. I faced pain, confusion, and a lot of misinformation. This is my story—and some advice for moms who may feel overwhelmed at the start.
The Beginning: Misguided Advice and Painful Lessons
I went into breastfeeding thinking it would be instinctual, natural, and, well…easy. I was wrong. The first few days were a whirlwind of exhaustion and tears. The hospital nursing staff meant well, but their approach was far from gentle. I’ll never forget the way they shoved my breast into my baby’s mouth, telling me, “This is how you do it.”
It hurt—badly. And when I mentioned the pain, I was told that “if your nipples are bleeding, you’re doing it right.” Which I know now that is absolutely not true.
No one told me that breastfeeding is a skill both mom and baby need to learn, like riding a bicycle – it take practice. It wasn’t until I got home and spent hours practicing—trying different holds, positions, and techniques—that I started to feel more confident. Those early days were filled with trial and error, but they taught me one crucial lesson: it’s okay to ask help.
I received Bad Advice
Here are a few other pieces of advice I received early on that, were completely unhelpful:
- “Just pump and bottle-feed—it’s easier.” While this works for some moms, I wanted to breastfeed directly and needed support to make that happen.
- “Your baby doesn’t need to eat that often.” Newborns need to nurse frequently, sometimes every 1-2 hours, to establish milk supply. Ignoring their cues can lead to struggles later.
- “Supplement with formula right away.” Again, this can be a good option for some, but supplementing too early without medical need can impact milk production.
My Best Advice to New Moms
Looking back, I wish someone had told me the following:
- Invest in a lactation consultant. Schedule an appointment for when you’re still in the hospital or as soon as you get home. They’re worth every penny and far more helpful than the rushed advice hospital staff often provide.
- Consider hiring a doula. A postpartum doula can guide you through those overwhelming first weeks, including breastfeeding struggles.
- Do your research beforehand. Learn about the benefits of breastfeeding, the mechanics of latching, and common challenges before your baby arrives. Knowing what to expect can help you push through tough moments. The BEST book to start with is The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, which covers everything from newborn nursing to weaning.
- Get all the breastfeeding essentials. Trust me, a good nursing pillow, a quality breast pump, and soothing nipple cream make all the difference! I’ve put together a list of my must-haves here: Top Breastfeeding Essentials for New Moms.
Breastfeeding Benefits: Why I Kept Going
Understanding the benefits of breastfeeding helped motivate me to keep trying. Breast milk provides perfect nutrition for your baby, boosts their immune system, and promotes bonding. For me, it became not just a task but a beautiful way to connect with my son.
Read this blog about “The Incredible Benefits of Breastfeeding: God’s Perfect Start for Your Baby”
Remember, You’re Not Alone
If you’re a mom struggling with breastfeeding, know this: you are not alone. It’s okay to feel frustrated, to cry, and to ask for help. Breastfeeding isn’t always easy, but with the right support and perseverance, it can become one of the most meaningful parts of your motherhood journey.
To all the moms out there: You’re doing an amazing job. Don’t let bad advice or early struggles discourage you. Trust yourself, seek support, and know that you’re capable of more than you think.
